I’m not sure if you are aware, but there are a ton of hurt feelings being harbored inside of job seekers these days. The economic downturn has created difficult situations for companies to work through and nine times out of ten, the hard-working, dedicated employees are the ones who suffer. At least once a week I serve as counselor to a job seeker who just needs to get his/her story off their chest and describe the hurt they feel about being laid off/let go/bullied/fired for unjust cause/treated with absolute disrespect…and the list goes on.
I’ve been there, I get it.
Moving on from that can be hard, but it’s definitely important. So how do you do it? It’s going to sound cliche and may not be what you want to hear, but it just takes time. Like any hurt relationship, healing from a toxic work environment just takes time.
It helps to find someone to express your frustration too – it helps even more if that person worked with you and experienced what you did. It helps to find someone who may be able to tell you what could have been happening on the other side bearing in mind that there may not always be a plausible explanation. It helps to talk it out until you simply can not talk about it anymore. The real healer though is time.
It may seem so devastating now. It may seem like things are just going downhill and staying there, but it does get easier. Eventually you will land in a new environment and that toxic place will be a thing of the past.
When people ask, and they often do, how they possibly start over after leaving such a place, my most simple answer is time…..